Did you have a dream involving sexual pleasure?
Whether or not you wake up aroused, such a dream can leave you wondering about its meaning.
Sexual dreams can have a literal interpretation or a hidden symbolism for some aspect of your life. Such dreams could be speaking to your sexual desires and capabilities, your emotional state, and the nature of your relationship with others.
All in all, there are different interpretations of sexual dreams depending on the content and context of the dream.
If you have sexual dreams, you might be curious to know where these dreams come from and what they mean. You have come to the right place because, in this article, I uncover the various interpretations and meanings of sexual dreams.
So, let’s jump right in!
Table of Contents
- what do sexual dreams mean?
- 1. You admire an aspect of someone’s personality
- 2. You want to be in a position of authority
- 3. You are losing control or want to be in control
- 4. Someone is domineering and suppressing you
- 5. You are concerned about your capabilities
- 6. You are holding on to past habits
- 7. It is time to unmask your talents
- 8. You want to be empowered to speak up
- 9. You are concerned about others’ perceptions of you
- 10. You are worried about being exposed
- 11. You are losing focus
- 12. An outsider is affecting your happiness
- 13. An aspect of your life needs cleansing and healing
- Summary: Sexual Dream Meaning and Symbolism
what do sexual dreams mean?
1. You admire an aspect of someone’s personality
When you have sexual dreams about someone, it could be that you want to be associated with them in your waking life.
You admire this person and want to emulate an aspect of their personality, whether their confidence, charisma, business acumen, or even physical attraction.
Dreaming about having a sexual encounter with a celebrity is common, especially if you are a big fan and often fantasize about meeting them in person.
Sometimes the person you see in the dream may not necessarily be someone you admire. Still, this dream reflects your subconscious thoughts about someone whose personality you would love to emulate.
Sexual dreams can sometimes involve an authority figure in your life, such as a boss, teacher, or coach. The illicitness of such dreams can make them exciting and bizarre at best.
Dreaming of an authority figure means you desire to be in a leadership position or to be in control of some aspect of your life.
This dream could also mean you look up to one or more authority figures. You might dream about having a sexual encounter with your teacher, but the person you really admire is your boss. Dreams often don’t have a literal meaning, and you might have to dig deeper to find their meaning.
3. You are losing control or want to be in control
If you have a BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism) dream, the encounter can be terrifying or thrilling, depending on your sexual preferences.
This dream may signify your dominant obsession with control. You could be preoccupied with fantasies of being in power and overpowering others.
In your waking life, you might consider yourself an underdog, but you secretly wish you could be more powerful and that people would notice you more. It could be that you also wish you could take revenge on anyone that might have taken advantage of you in your position as an underdog.
This dream could also signify a loss of control. In your waking life, you feel tied down by responsibilities and duties you no longer want to be a part of.
These burdens have robbed the joy out of your life. But, you want to be free and enjoy the little pleasures that make life worth living.
4. Someone is domineering and suppressing you
Having BDSM dreams could also mean someone domineering you, making you uncomfortable.
This dream could come about if you are in an abusive relationship in which one of the partners is excessively dominant and the other is too timid and dependent.
Like in all dependent relationships, you struggle to leave yours because there are phases of goodness, followed by a painful phase, and so on.
As difficult as it is to be in a relationship with an excessively domineering person, you are the only one who can decide what you want to do with the situation at hand.
5. You are concerned about your capabilities
Sexual dreams often relate to one’s perception of sexual and non-sexual capabilities.
You might have this dream if you are worried about your capacity to do something in your waking life. This might not necessarily be related to your bedroom capabilities. You may be worried about doing your job well, especially if you are newly hired or promoted.
In your waking life, you might be embarrassed about others finding out that you are incapable of doing something you purport to be good at.
If you struggle with imposter syndrome, you might have dreams in which there are issues of erectile dysfunction and awkwardness in your sexual encounters. This means that in real life, your ego is attempting to bring you down and make you feel like you are inadequate.
6. You are holding on to past habits
It is common to dream about having sex with an ex. Such a dream can have a literal or symbolic meaning.
For one, dreaming that you slept with an ex could mean that you have been thinking a lot about a past lover or that you miss them and wish to reconnect.
In real life, having sexual encounters with your ex is a faux pas that could complicate your life and make the recovery journey even harder. This dream could be warning you against returning to your ex; the sexual thrill might be temporary, but the consequences might be dire.
Dreams about having sex with an ex could also symbolize that you are still courting the past. You haven’t let go of some aspect of your past or are still hanging on to old habits or patterns even though they aren’t serving you positively.
7. It is time to unmask your talents
If you dream about having sex with a stranger whose face you cannot see, this dream could be telling you something about yourself that you need to unmask.
It could be that you are not paying attention to nurturing your talents or are too afraid of doing anything about them and prefer to keep your capabilities a secret.
There is a reason for your unique talents, and you should nurture them instead of hiding and suppressing them.
This dream could be a message from your Higher Self urging you to be more authentic instead of hiding parts of yourself. Unmasking your talents is one way to live your most authentic life.
8. You want to be empowered to speak up
Dreams about oral sex can be exciting or repulsive, depending on your perception of this form of pleasure. But this dream has more to it than just oral simulation.
Giving or receiving oral sex could be related to communication in real life. It could be that you want to speak up and stand up for yourself in your waking life.
In the past, you have been timid and did not speak up for yourself. From experience, you are learning to stand your ground and say what you like and don’t like regardless of other people’s opinions.
For many people, performing oral sex is a bold step. So, having this dream means taking bold steps and doing things differently from the norm.
9. You are concerned about others’ perceptions of you
Did you have sex dreams that involved dirty talk? This dream could be symbolic of your fear of other people’s judgment.
You are hiding a part of yourself because you think people will speak negatively about you and spread dirty rumors that could ruin your reputation.
Having this dream could signify that you must stop worrying too much about what other people say and think about you.
If there are parts of yourself you have been hiding due to others’ perception of you, it might be time to come out of the closet and express your real self, even if it hurts others.
10. You are worried about being exposed
If you are keeping a secret, you might have dreams about having sex in public.
We all know that sex is universally a private encounter, and few people would really want to engage in this activity in the glare of the public.
Dreaming about having sex in public means that you were engaging in illicit activity and worried about being exposed.
It could be that you are cheating or having an affair, and you obviously do not want anyone finding out and this information becoming public. You know that the consequences of being exposed could be detrimental.
Having an affair is not the only thing you might be worried about being exposed to. This dream may symbolize your anxiety about telling a serious lie, not paying taxes, or engaging in illegal activity.
You might want to take this dream as a warning sign to stop your behavior, or you might be exposed sooner than you think, and your downfall might come faster than you expected.
11. You are losing focus
When you dream about having sexual dreams with multiple people, it could mean that you are multitasking or trying to deal with too many things at once.
Handling more than one thing at a time can seem like a time-saving strategy, but in reality, doing too much at once can cause you to lose focus.
If you feel overwhelmed in your waking life, this dream could be telling you to slow down and try focusing on one thing at a time.
You are more likely to achieve better results when you give attention and effort to a single thing before moving on to the next project.
12. An outsider is affecting your happiness
When it comes to dreams about sex, one of the most common is dreaming about someone interrupting you during sex. Of course, this scenario can be highly embarrassing and annoying in your waking life.
Dreams about someone interrupting you could symbolize what is going on in your waking life. It could be that someone is coming in between you and your happiness.
For example, if, in the dream, your boss interrupts you during sex, it could symbolize that work is coming between you and your personal life.
Even though more balance will make you happier, your work commitments prevent you from fully enjoying your personal life.
If you dream about a parent interrupting you during sex, it could signify a strained relationship between you and your family or parents. In your waking life, it could be that you are not in good terms with your parents, and they aren’t exactly the epitome of happiness in your life.
13. An aspect of your life needs cleansing and healing
Dreaming about sex in the bathtub or shower is quite common. This is a major fantasy for a lot of people in real life.
But, if you find yourself having such a dream, it could signify that an area of your life needs spiritual cleansing and healing.
Whatever needs healing and cleansing might not be immediately clear to you. But, take your time to assess what aspect needs to be healed to live a more wholesome life.
Maybe you need to cleanse yourself of the negative energy you carry after a divorce or breakup. Only from cleansing and healing will you be ready to move into a better and healthier relationship.
It could also be that you need to heal from past childhood trauma to understand your present life better and process everything that is going on.
Summary: Sexual Dream Meaning and Symbolism
A sexual dream can be confusing and pleasurable, depending on the context. Dreams don’t always have a literal translation, which couldn’t be truer for sexual dreams.
Most sexual dreams are symbolic of your desires in waking life. These desires could be anything from a longing for authority, freedom, control, and acceptance.
Sexual dreams can bring powerful lessons if you take the time to understand the meaning and symbolism behind your dreamscapes.